Rightsizing Not Downsizing

I have finally moved into my new digs, smack bang in the middle of the city and it feels good…. but if I’m honest, it also feels a smidge confronting. Maybe that’s because I have officially stepped into that ‘new chapter’ that I’ve been pontificating about for the past few years and now I need to actually make good with all those grand plans I have for the second half of life. After decades of ‘sameness,’ my life is changing shape… quickly. But contrary to popular opinion, it isn’t getting smaller. I may have downsized my dwelling, but my life hasn’t shrunk along with it. My life’s just transitioning… morphing into a different shape and I am in the throws of racing alongside it in an attempt to hurl myself through the window and get back into the drivers seat. The idea of ‘downsizing’ feels loaded with innuendo… like a euphemism for a smaller life? My space might be smaller, but my life certainly isn’t. I’m not downsizing. I’m rightsizing.

Part of the challenge of ‘rightsizing’ has been ‘melding’ my life and my new space, a quest which has coincided with this deep-seated yearning to feel leaner, lighter and less encumbered by the collective weight of a lifetime of accumulation. But it’s not just the stuff; it’s also the responsibilities, friendships, identities and invisible nametags that have defined who I am for so long. The time has come to peel back and examine all the complex layers of life and make space for all the beautiful unknowns that lie ahead, (like the inevitable proposal from Lenny Kravitz, which will necessitate my swift move to LA). I need to release what was, to make room for what is yet to come, by freeing up space in my head, my house and my heart. By letting go, not just of stuff but also old habits and thoughts that no longer serve me, and even some friendships. (If any friends are reading this … I’m totes not talking about you).

I’m not advocating a midlife fire sale, more of a controlled ‘life back burn’, as a way of promoting new growth and renewal.  It feels liberating to lighten the load of life … to slowly shed all the excess baggage and moving to a more nimble, ‘carry-on’ only life; because as Carl Jung said; “We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.”

Ang x

12 Comments
  • Alexandra Andrews
    Posted at 21:04h, 19 May Reply

    Love it..! And nope….you are stuck with me for life. I’m hurling myself with you . Lol

    • Ang I Am
      Posted at 23:45h, 19 May Reply

      Happy to be ‘stuck’ with you my friend! It feels like that car is speeding up …. maybe we need to run a bit faster!!!!

  • Hermione Stewart
    Posted at 00:24h, 20 May Reply

    Once again I want to share your insights. I feel like your insights are mine – you just found the more succinct beautiful words to describe me. Keep writing about me – it’s so helpful! And you’re so funny! I laughed out loud once again. Love your work about me! Hx

    • Ang I Am
      Posted at 01:51h, 20 May Reply

      You’re totes on the ‘keepers’ list. Love you lots H xx

  • Maya Mirkovic
    Posted at 01:48h, 21 May Reply

    WOW this is awesome Ang! Can so easily relate, as we have just sold our house and moved into a 2 bedroom apartment smack bang in the middle of Broadbeach on the GC – but have to say, apart from the frustration of having minimal cupboard space, I’m loving it!
    Hope you are well and would love for you to visit us one day, would be fun to reconnect ❤️

    • Ang I Am
      Posted at 06:03h, 21 May Reply

      Oh … congrats … you and Bob are rightsizing too!! I would love to visit you … reconnect over a bit of karaoke (for old times sake!)

  • Lynette
    Posted at 03:17h, 23 May Reply

    So liberating! I’m not quite there yet but soon!!! 😃

  • Lynette
    Posted at 03:17h, 23 May Reply

    So liberating! I’m not quite there yet but soon!!! 😃

  • Becky Livingston
    Posted at 14:50h, 08 June Reply

    I love the notion of ‘rightsizing’. and your rationale for its use. Thanks so much.

    • Ang I Am
      Posted at 01:18h, 09 June Reply

      Glad my story resonated with you Becky! I’ve got to say that my new “rightsize” fits perfectly!!

  • Anthea Pretorius
    Posted at 07:57h, 15 June Reply

    Rightsizing indeed! I am moving into the transition to my dream home at the sea and planning towards that now.
    Living lighter is what we all need to do.
    Clutter is heavy on the spirit.
    Belongings can weigh us down more than we realize.

    May you be extremely happy in your new digs!
    May the vibe and the synergy of your new environment invigorate and inspire you every day!
    Sending blessings and light your way, Ang!

    • Ang I Am
      Posted at 08:09h, 15 June Reply

      May you too thrive and flourish in your dream home by the sea. It sounds wonderful Ang xx

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